Conflicted
Posted 12th January 2015 at 08:52 PM by Bringer Of Funerals
As you all know, I am about to be a daddy and today me and mam were talking about my dad and this is where I am conflicted.
My dad lives in Wales and he left me when I was 2. From then on he saw me every month and I even went to Manchester with him (where he is originally from) and my mam used to arrange the meets etc.
But overall he didn't seem to care about me and he adopted 2 children who he seemed to care more about.
Well the meetings stopped in 2007 (and I remember the year because while I was down there I bought an Enya album).
I have even tried on several occasions to contact him to which his adopted daughter says he's out. She has also had 3 children to which I assume he loves.
So this is my dilemma - do I tell him about the new girl coming or just leave it.
On one hand I don't want to tell him because he won't care as he never cared about me and I don't want her to know about a granddad she will never meet.
Well when I said that I started crying today and felt like how could anybody not care about our baby. I also couldn't bare her wanting to know about a man who will never want to know her because that will break my heart.
On the other hand I feel like im an evil bastard for depriving her of a granddad.
What would you lot do?
My dad lives in Wales and he left me when I was 2. From then on he saw me every month and I even went to Manchester with him (where he is originally from) and my mam used to arrange the meets etc.
But overall he didn't seem to care about me and he adopted 2 children who he seemed to care more about.
Well the meetings stopped in 2007 (and I remember the year because while I was down there I bought an Enya album).
I have even tried on several occasions to contact him to which his adopted daughter says he's out. She has also had 3 children to which I assume he loves.
So this is my dilemma - do I tell him about the new girl coming or just leave it.
On one hand I don't want to tell him because he won't care as he never cared about me and I don't want her to know about a granddad she will never meet.
Well when I said that I started crying today and felt like how could anybody not care about our baby. I also couldn't bare her wanting to know about a man who will never want to know her because that will break my heart.
On the other hand I feel like im an evil bastard for depriving her of a granddad.
What would you lot do?
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It's only depriving her of a granddad if she would regularly see that person.
As that doesn't seem to be the case then perhaps it's something you could discuss with her when she's old enough.Posted 12th January 2015 at 10:57 PM by Demdike@Cult Labs
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Tell him but be prepared for disappointment. Then again it could lead to you and your Dad becoming closer. Tricky. Anyhow congratulations on your news and good luck.Posted 13th January 2015 at 09:32 AM by Make Them Die Slowly 
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